The stylist who trained me said 'your hands are too slow for a razor cut' in front of a full salon in Austin
I cried in my car after, then practiced on mannequins 3 hours a night for 8 months until my razor work got smooth. Now I train new stylists, and I want to know if any of you had a mentor who broke you down to build you up, or was that just my shop?
That "break you down to build you up" thing gets said a lot in our industry, but in my experience it's usually just a cover for someone being bad at teaching. A good mentor can tell you your hands are slow without making you cry in a parking lot in Austin. What you went through wasn't some old school rite of passage, it was a teacher who didn't know how to correct someone in a way that actually helps. The proof is in how you turned out, because you put in those 8 months of mannequin practice and now you train people yourself. My guess is you teach the way you wish she had taught you, and that's the real win here. Your mileage may vary, but I don't buy that cruelty and good teaching have to go together.