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Vent: My solo week in Berlin made me question our family's constant worrying
My parents always freak out when I travel alone. I went to Berlin last fall and didn't call for days. They sent a million texts but I ignored them. Exploring the city on my own terms was amazing. Now I think their fear is more about control than care.
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jana_hill276mo ago
Days without a single call back home? That's wild. Honestly, turning off your phone like that in a whole other country takes guts (or maybe just a big need for space). It really does sound like their worry tipped over into something else. Getting to explore a place completely on your own schedule is a feeling you can't get back. Good for you for seeing that difference between being cared for and being managed.
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lucas2066mo ago
Man that line about worry turning into control hits hard. My mom used to text me every single day in college, like clockwork, and if I didn't reply within an hour she'd start calling my roommate. It felt less like love and more like a reporting system. @jana_hill27 is totally right about that difference, it's a thin line. I had to basically train her out of it by slowly taking longer to reply, which sounds awful but it worked. Now we talk once a week and it's actually good.
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kelly.diana6mo ago
Try keeping your phone off around my family. I did that once and they called the cops for a wellness check. Now I get why worry can turn into control real quick.
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